Settling In: Helping Your Child Transition to Nursery Life

Starting nursery is a big milestone—for both children and parents. It’s an exciting step filled with opportunities for learning, friendships, and independence. But it can also come with a few nerves and tears along the way. That’s completely normal, and with a little preparation and reassurance, the transition can be a positive experience for everyone.

Why settling in matters

Children thrive when they feel safe, secure, and confident in their environment. Those first few days and weeks are all about building trust with new adults, exploring new spaces, and adjusting to routines. A gentle, supportive settling-in period helps children feel more at ease and ready to enjoy their time at nursery.

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Tips for parents before the first day

• Talk positively about nursery – Share stories about the fun they’ll have, the toys they’ll play with, and the friends they’ll meet.

• Practice short separations – Leave your child with a trusted friend or family member for short periods to help them get used to being apart from you.

• Visit together – Attending settling-in sessions gives your child a chance to meet staff, explore the room, and see that nursery is a safe place.

• Involve your child – Let them help you pack their spare clothes in their bag. Show them you are writing their name in their wellies or sunhat. Talk to them about what the morning routine will look like. It helps them feel a sense of familiarity and ownership.

  
  

What to expect during the first weeks

It’s natural for some children to cry at drop-off or cling to their parent at first. This usually settles once they realise that you always return. Our team uses comforting routines, songs, and activities to help children quickly feel at home. Staff also take time to get to know each child’s personality, interests, and routines so they can offer personalised reassurance.

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Supporting your child at home

• Keep goodbye routines short and consistent—linger too long and it can be harder for your child to let go.

• Talk about their day afterwards, even if they can’t explain much yet. “Did you play with the cars?” or “What snack did you have?” can spark conversation.

• Find out who in their room they play with and talk about them at home. It can help to make the nursery experience feel like part of the family experience too.

• Celebrate small successes, like hanging up their coat or waving goodbye.

  
  

Reassurance for parents

It’s not just the children who are adjusting—parents often feel emotional too. It’s okay to feel a mix of pride and worry. Our staff are always happy to share updates, photos, and observations via the Famly app to give you peace of mind . Remember, building independence takes time, and every child settles at their own pace so try not to compare.

If your child is about to start at our nursery, please don’t hesitate to talk to us about how we can make the transition as smooth as possible. We’re here to support both you and your little one every step of the way.